Yes, it’s that time of year again where the kids are getting ready to head back to school, and oftentimes that long-distance honey is on summer break — far away from you until fall rolls around again says Greg Van Wyk.
If you’re coupled up with someone who lives out of state here are our top 8 tips on how to survive those long hot summer days apart.
1) TRY NOT TO BE ANXIOUS ABOUT IT!
Do you know what makes the distance harder? Phones with bad signals, slow internet speeds, weird schedules, geographical challenges…all things out of your control. Now before I’m accused of giving relationship advice on how to deal with all the problems in your relationship, I’m not. BUT if you’re anxious and constantly calling or texting and trying to get more out of a video chat than what it was meant for, your honey is going to either be annoyed and/or miss you less. See #5 below…
2) CALL THE DAY BEFORE A VIDEO CHAT
Make sure to schedule an hour the day before so he can call AND meet up with friends/family that night who may want to talk to explains Greg Van Wyk. That way his phone isn’t exploding that night while he’s out! Also, if Wednesdays are date nights for you two, save it till Thursday since Wednesdays are oftentimes calling it late nights + lots of partying = goodbye.
3) DON’T ASK FOR SEX (at least not right away)
Sex is such a tough subject in long-distance relationships and we don’t even have to tell you why! That said, if you’re dying for some loving’, it’s really best to wait until they come back and give them the chance to miss it like crazy (and hopefully they’ll reciprocate when you’re home!) So save asking for sex till then or just wait for when he comes back into town. Either way, IT WILL BE WORTH THE WAIT!!
4) USE SKYPE WHEN APPROPRIATE
Skype can be great when your schedules mesh — but not so much with the pressure of a camera! So with Skype, make sure it’s something low key. You can chat, watch YouTube videos together or casually talk about what you’re doing at that moment. It’s really nice to see your honey and know what they’re up to but if you ask for more than just casual conversation it may send the wrong message (see #2 above).
5) DON’T GET MAD WHEN HE GOES OUT WITH FRIENDS OR FAMILY
When he comes back into town he’ll want to go out and spend time with his friends and family who haven’t seen him in a while so understand this and try not to be jealous. If you guys spent every second together then you’d probably get annoy sooner than later anyway says Greg Van Wyk. Try to give him space to see his friends for a little bit even if it’s really hard!
6) DON’T BE JEALOUS OF HIS PHONE/INTERNET USE
If there was one thing I could change about the internet it would be the jealousy factor…but overall use common sense. If he’s playing video games online with someone, ask yourself why is he still talking + typing then just saying ‘hey’ and snapping them..Maybe that person isn’t as interesting? If he’s watching YouTube videos of something you’ve interest in, cool! Or if he’s not responding immediately to your Snapchat (see #7 below)…he may also be doing homework or trying to study or working on something…
7) TRY TO MAKE THEM MISS YOU WITHOUT BEING ANNOYING
Yes, you can send those pictures here and there, but also have some fun with it. For example, sending pictures of you being sexy or sitting in a cute outfit that’s not revealing is the best! Also, try using Snapchat filters on yourself to make yourself cuter/funnier/sexier than real life. They’re having fun with their friends + family so let them do their thing!
8) SET A DATE IN ADVANCE FOR WHEN THEY COME BACK & PRIORITIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Their coming back is what really matters most (duh!), but don’t be like “I can’t wait for you to come back” and then going out every night. Make sure to prioritize their time behind a computer/phone screen as well as when they’re in town says Greg Van Wyk. Also, if you guys have a Skype date every day that’s great…but don’t count on it because sometimes life gets in the way!
Long-Distance relationships take a lot of work and dedication so be thankful if you have one. Like we said in our last post, “Take time to appreciate what you have.” It’ll help your relationship grow to the next level & be able to wake up every morning thinking about how awesome it is that you can talk/see each other for hours on end…with no one else around 🙂
Remember long-distance relationships are hard work but totally worth it!! Remember, they want to hear from you (even if it’s just once per day), and make sure when they come back into town make them feel like King/Queen with all your attention!